My Own Growth
When I reflect on my own counseling experiences, it's easy to see all the ways in which it has benefited me. At times it was tough, or made me feel anxious, even vulnerable. It makes me believe that the term “growing pains” should also apply to our mental well being, not just our physical. Just as a seed has to push through the muck around it, we too need to push through to the light for growth.
The first thing I remember learning was the importance of having a calm safe space. My first counselor’s office was unorganized and cramped, it left me feeling guarded.
My next counselor showed me how to be more insightful. As we would talk he would notice when my body language would change, and ask where my mind had wondered to. He helped me to see that when these behavior changes happened, that it was time to check in with myself and practice a new coping skill. I learned about journaling; that it’s OK to just write whatever comes to mind. I learned healthy ways to release anger and other emotions - such as finding movement. I learned how to feel comfort from listening to music. Listening to music opened my world to seeing that others have felt the way that I have, and it made me not feel alone.
During the time of my life where I was not in need of counseling, is where my love of nature blossomed. The same peace that I had learned to tap into, I could replicate when I was in nature.
When the time came to return to counseling, my counselor empowered me to leave an unhealthy relationship. She helped me to understand what a healthy relationship looked like. She was the first one to tell me that I had Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and she helped me to better understand my own mental health.
When the time came to address my PTSD, I learned so much more. I learned how to cope with my anxiety attacks; using grounding and light stream. I learned what it meant to be triggered, how to recognize triggers, and how to cope when they happen. She helped me develop healthier ways to cope - such as walking, talking with friends and actually allowing myself to relax. I learned how to be mindful. How to listen to my body, and it was during this time that I started to do yoga at home.
I felt validated by her. She really heard me and cared for me. My time with her changed my trajectory, she guided me to a better and healthier version of myself.
Then I found EMDR. My negative beliefs no longer held power, and instead my confidence grew as my positive beliefs felt more true.
I became able to recognize the barriers that I allowed to hold me back. I became a better self advocate. I was able to properly express myself and my needs. My communication skills increased. I was able to let go of a need to control. In my growth I found a healthy lifestyle.
I learned to practice boundaries.
I truly found forgiveness in others.
I had confidence in my own judgment.
I was able to reach my goals.
Sincerely,
Sarah
